I understand and share your frustration because sonetimes, I feel exactly the same.
Then I remember that iXSystems is giving us an enterprise NAS for free and even invests money to make it usable for us for free.
That being said: I can recommend the different channels of https://serversatho.me/. I’m not sure if everything he does is best practice, but if you follow his guides, you’ll end up with a working homeserver. He started his channel with 24.10 and that has the advantage for us, newbies, that there is never conflicting advice due to the switch from Kubernetes to Docker.
I don;t know the guy or have links with him.